Well, I’d like to point out that as a college student I don’t really have an opportunity to impact anything in the ways that you’re suggesting, I don’t really have the funds to donate to anything or really do anything on a scale that could make a change besides blogging about my opinions.
I’m just a person that believes in full equality for women, and yes I do think there are problems with the patriarchy. I am 100% against any of the “real” oppression that goes on in other countries, but I am going to admit as a white queer college kid in america, I also do have a lot of feeling about what you would probably consider smaller/less important issues, judging by the tone of this message. If I could find a way to make a difference about the way women are treated in some other countries, I would definitely get behind that. I don’t want to sound like I’m belittling those larger struggles, but from where I am and the scale on which I feel I can affect anything, I’m kind of in a place where everyone knows about the big things like that, and it’s much easier to try to change someone’s mind about slut-shaming and rape culture than it is to try to, like, abolish the sex industry.
So yes, I am the kind of feminist that’s going to sit here and tell you that there are still problems with equality in America, and that just because they’re ingrained in our society that doesn’t make them non-issues. Yes on the big scale they’re less important than girls being mutilated and murdered, but from my frame of view small scale is much easier to access, and also something that shouldn’t just be ignored because “oh, other people have it worse.”
We know that other people have it worse, but if I can change someone’s mind about maybe something they’ve said to a girl in the past, or a hurtful opinion that they’ve had, that’s still a victory. And for me that’s important.